Johanna Stamps, a licensed grief counselor, talks about how we have to acknowledge grief and mourn in order to continue to move towards God’s vision for our life. Many items can be lost such as a job, pets, friendships, and marriages. As men, we need to take time and space to let our brain catch up to the event that has happened. Johanna shares her 7 steps included below and talks about the power of writing a closure letter on the grief you are going through. How to connect with Johanna:johannastamps.com804 944 [email protected] Men’s Alliance | How Great Men Grieve “If you loved it, and lost it, then grieve it” Grief is like an epic hike through a desolate land. 7 Steps of the Journey: 1. TRAILHEAD: AT THE BEGINNING OF THE JOURNEY a. Set the intention to heal, to integrate b. Look for a sign you are grieving: Cognitive, Affective, Physical, Spiritual c. You ONLY work where grief is coming up, that’s the beginning d. Feel the pain (No pain, No gain)... It brings healing 2. LOOK AT THE MAP (Pssst... it’s a magical map) a. The magical map only appears as you walk forward in your grief b. It’s completely unique to you (circumstance, personality, etc.) c. Dispel misconceptions (don’t look for stages) 3. BEGIN WALKING a. Small doses as it comes up b. One thing at a time c. We cannot grieve all at one time. We wouldn’t be able to take it! d. Be creative... example: recognizing important dates (or your body will tell you) 4. GATHER WITH OTHERS - DON’T GRIEVE IN ISOLATION a. Grieving is internal - Mourning is your external or public experience of grief b. ESSENTIAL - speak about the experience of the loss, memories, etc. c. Moves from the head to the heart (READ THIS AGAIN!!!) d. Look for the 1⁄3 who are good with grief (most likely someone who has dealt with their own grief) 5. STOP FOR REST a. Sustenance for your epic journey b. Maybe learn to rest for the first time 6. EXERCISE JOY AND PAIN MUSCLE a. Like any normal ruck or hike there is joy with the pain b. Practice this often when you are grieving 7. GET TO THE LOOKOUT a. Reflect on how far you have come (when you look at the loss with less pain) b. See parts of yourself that are becoming whole again - integrating the loss c. This is OFTEN understanding who you are (e.g. identity) Sponsor: Tom 'Doc' Love CFP®, CRPC®, CRPS® [email protected] Craig Heah. [email protected] https://www.themainstreetgroup.com/ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/mensalliancetribe/support
This week Isaac "Chef" Wiafe joins the podcast to share his journey, and how he found MA. From growing up in Ghana to finding God, and working his way up in America. Chef shares what he has learned and what he wants his children to understand. Mentioned in the podcast: Men's Alliance Start the Fire event Nov 10-11th 2023 Sponsor: Tom Love CFP®, CRPC®, CRPS® [email protected] Craig Heah. [email protected] The Main Street Group - website --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/mensalliancetribe/support
Listen to full episodeBefore getting into a debate, it’s a good idea to have the opponents playbook. Listen to hear the oppositions best arguments on why abortion is not murder. Podcast Mentioned:Ep 182: Men & Abortion https://youtu.be/9WTIpC5qJyQ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/mensalliancetribe/support
Listen to full episodeDo you struggle with forgiveness? Perhaps you believe one of the misconceptions around forgiveness such as waiting for reconciliation or trying to forget an offense. Is it harder for you to forgive yourself than it is for you to forgive others? In this episode, you'll learn why God commands us to forgive, the challenges we face in forgiving others and ourselves, and a few tips to help you forgive as God does. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/mensalliancetribe/support
Listen to full episodeIf it's your job to eat a frog, it's best to do it first thing in the morning. And If it's your job to eat two frogs, it's best to eat the biggest and ugliest one first. - Mark Twain What is the Frog you need to Eat first thing in the morning to move your life closer to God or family? Life is not about who completes the most maintenance tasks. What is important is seldom urgent, and what is urgent is seldom important. - Dwight D. Eisenhower --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/mensalliancetribe/support
Listen to full episodeHow do you prioritize what is most important? In the Air Force the priorities when flying are Aviate, Navigate, and Communicate. You have to focus on the most important action and decision, before moving on to the next. What will your priorities say about you? Mission Briefing 26: Is Abortion Political? https://youtu.be/K1ShbKK2WkY --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/mensalliancetribe/support
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