Mission Briefing 42: Saving Relationships, Not Ending Them - Not All "Counselors" Give Good Advice

Goose discusses the significance of finding a good counselor and the importance of restoring relationships rather than ending them. He shares his experiences with both giving and receiving counseling and the potential harm caused by a bad counselor who advised him to leave his marriage based on personal happiness rather than what is right. Goose emphasizes the importance of communication and conflict resolution skills in repairing relationships and warns against counselors who encourage ending relationships or labeling them as toxic. He suggests that such counselors may be motivated by popularity and their advice could contradict Christian teachings. All in all, Goose encourages individuals to seek counseling from someone who will help them see that relationship problems are temporary and provide tools to fix them. Follow Men's Alliance Instagram - ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/mensalliancetribe/⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook - ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/mensalliancetribe⁠⁠⁠⁠ Tiktok - ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@mensalliancetribe⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website - ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.mensalliancetribe.com/⁠⁠⁠ Order the Book - Answer With Truth: The Ambassador’s Field Manual for Leading Your Family Spiritually - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://amzn.to/3BmnuKV⁠⁠ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/mensalliancetribe/support

Oct 21
06 min
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Ep 175: How Great Men Grieve

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Men’s Alliance

Johanna Stamps, a licensed grief counselor, talks about how we have to acknowledge grief and mourn in order to continue to move towards God’s vision for our life.  Many items can be lost such as a job, pets, friendships, and marriages.  As men, we need to take time and space to let our brain catch up to the event that has happened. Johanna shares her 7 steps included below and talks about the power of writing a closure letter on the grief you are going through. How to connect with Johanna:johannastamps.com804 944 [email protected] Men’s Alliance | How Great Men Grieve “If you loved it, and lost it, then grieve it” Grief is like an epic hike through a desolate land. 7 Steps of the Journey: 1. TRAILHEAD: AT THE BEGINNING OF THE JOURNEY a. Set the intention to heal, to integrate b. Look for a sign you are grieving: Cognitive, Affective, Physical, Spiritual c. You ONLY work where grief is coming up, that’s the beginning d. Feel the pain (No pain, No gain)... It brings healing 2. LOOK AT THE MAP (Pssst... it’s a magical map) a. The magical map only appears as you walk forward in your grief b. It’s completely unique to you (circumstance, personality, etc.) c. Dispel misconceptions (don’t look for stages) 3. BEGIN WALKING a. Small doses as it comes up b. One thing at a time c. We cannot grieve all at one time. We wouldn’t be able to take it! d. Be creative... example: recognizing important dates (or your body will tell you) 4. GATHER WITH OTHERS - DON’T GRIEVE IN ISOLATION a. Grieving is internal - Mourning is your external or public experience of grief b. ESSENTIAL - speak about the experience of the loss, memories, etc. c. Moves from the head to the heart (READ THIS AGAIN!!!) d. Look for the 1⁄3 who are good with grief (most likely someone who has dealt with their own grief) 5. STOP FOR REST a. Sustenance for your epic journey b. Maybe learn to rest for the first time 6. EXERCISE JOY AND PAIN MUSCLE a. Like any normal ruck or hike there is joy with the pain b. Practice this often when you are grieving 7. GET TO THE LOOKOUT a. Reflect on how far you have come (when you look at the loss with less pain) b. See parts of yourself that are becoming whole again - integrating the loss c. This is OFTEN understanding who you are (e.g. identity) Sponsor: Tom 'Doc' Love CFP®, CRPC®, CRPS® [email protected] Craig Heah. [email protected] ⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.themainstreetgroup.com/ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/mensalliancetribe/support

May 02
1 hr 21 min
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Ep 26: When Marriage Sucks

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Men’s Alliance

The old phrase "Marriage takes hard work" is a gross understatement. The truth is there will be times when you want to kill each other! But when you find yourself in one of these low points in marriage and you're thinking about walking away, know this - we've all been there, and it will get better.  Hey, we wouldn't have to take a vow before God that "until death do us part" if this marriage thing were supposed to be easy! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/mensalliancetribe/support

Mar 26
11 min
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Ep 67: Eat The Frog w/ Jeff VanAtta

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Men’s Alliance

If it's your job to eat a frog, it's best to do it first thing in the morning. And If it's your job to eat two frogs, it's best to eat the biggest and ugliest one first. - Mark Twain What is the Frog you need to Eat first thing in the morning to move your life closer to God or family? Life is not about who completes the most maintenance tasks.  What is important is seldom urgent, and what is urgent is seldom important. - Dwight D. Eisenhower --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/mensalliancetribe/support

Jan 07
04 min
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Ep 126: The Education System w/ Ryan Harter

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Men’s Alliance

This week join us with our guest, Ryan Harter, who discusses real issues that our children are facing today in school. This message will convey the importance of how as men we need to wake up, get off the sidelines, and get re-involved in our children's school and religious lives. Ryan's resume includes: Air force veteran, teacher, entrepreneur, and school board member for the Matoaca District of Chesterfield County. In addition, Ryan is now actively running for the Virginia House of Delegates. Ryan Harter (harterforva.com) --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/mensalliancetribe/support

Mar 30
1 hr 11 min
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Ep 138: America's Men in Crisis

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Men’s Alliance

This week Goose talks shares his vision for Men's Alliance and discusses an article about manhood. Mentioned in the Podcast this week: MA Start the Fire weekend November 10,11 2023 MA Patch Class video Ambassador t-Shirt link Manhood: The Masculine Virtues that America Needs by Josh Hawley --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/mensalliancetribe/support

Jun 29
23 min
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